Providing for Parents Effects Marriage

Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Bhuvaneshwari Bhagat: That’s interesting. In those couples that call you 5 to 15 years into their marriage, what are their issues?

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Bhuvaneshwari Bhagat

Providing for Parents Effects Marriage: Asking Why

The biggest issue is that they all have parents living in India or in a South continent.

The fact that there is a level of giving back causes a huge issue in the relationship for people who live here.

The partners who are from here question, “Why is it that we have to give back so much for people in India?”

Providing for Parents Effects Marriage: The Situation

There are a lot of people who feel very uneasy with the fact that they’ve chosen to live here and they have parents who are aging in India.

They have siblings who are all doing very well but it’s an immigrant’s void that draws them into thinking that they need to play this role. The only role is either resources or a chunk of time that you can give once in a while, which would mean most of your vacation time, typically, for couples.

Then there are issues revolving around that. “All of our time goes to going back to only one country.”