Internal Dialogue: Discover You

Caller One asks Dhru Beeharilal: Yes, okay. I have another question. You mentioned following your interests and passions. I strongly believe in that, too.

What if people don’t necessarily realize or have an idea of what they’re interested in or passion about? They say, “I don’t know what I’m passionate about.”

I’m curious as to how I can reply to those people as well as figuring it out for myself, too.

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Dhru Beeharilal

That’s a great question. That comes up a lot.

Unfortunately, that question could take days or months to answer. I can give you a short answer.

Internal Dialogue: Personal Reflection

That personal reflection time that I mentioned earlier will be key to that.

Internal Dialogue: Society Norms

In today’s world,

We’re pushed to go to school.

When we finish high school, we’re pushed to go to college.

When you finish college, sometimes you get pushed to go to grad school, med school or law school.

There is no real time to reflect and think, “Do I really want to do this? What do I really want to do?”

There’s not a lot of room for that, especially in our culture. It’s very go, go, go.

Internal Dialogue: Life Plan

People say, “You’re successful? Get married.”

There’s no room to say, “Let me take a day or a month to figure out what I want to do.”

That 15 or 20 minutes that you take every day for reflection time will allow you more insight into your own psyche and what you want to do.

Your mind will wander for a while. It’s a meditation type thing. It’s not purely meditation because you’re letting your mind go a little bit.

You relax and reset. That alone will allow you to get more clarity as far as what y<h2> eally want to do.

Internal Dialogue: Discover Hobbies

Another idea that I tell my clients is that there might be something that you enjoy doing, like a hobby.

Not all hobbies can be professions, but if you have a hobby that you really enjoy, ask yourself what it is about that hobby that you enjoy.

If you have several hobbies, try to find something in common, or a base at the core of those hobbies.

Internal Dialogue: Hobbies Into Careers

Ask yourself, “Is there a career in this that I could do?” If not, then that’s fine. You can keep looking. It’s definitely a question worth answering.

There is a reason that you have these hobbies. There is a reason that we all have our hobbies and interests.

Our internal dialogue knows that answer. We just have to engage that dialogue.

Caller One

Internal Dialogue: For Me or You

Yes. I’m sorry, I have one more follow-up question. You said something that triggered my interests. Now I’m in reflection time. What comes up is maybe what I think I want, but then also what I was taught to want.

I struggle sometimes personally with that.

Do I really want this or do I want this because that’s what everyone else is doing and it’s what I was taught when I was younger? Do you have any advice on how to know the difference between them?

Dhru Beeharilal

Internal Dialogue: Ask Yourself

Ask the same questions you asked just now.

Why do I want this?

What would this accomplish?

What would getting this degree, certification or job accomplish in my life?

Can I see myself being happier with this thing in my life?

If I can see myself being happy with it, then okay. That’s great.

I might also think,

I don’t know.

I can go either way.

Is it really something that I want

Is it something that my parents want?

Is it something that my friends all have?

Do I think it would be nice to have so that I can have a conversation piece?