Defining The First Impression

Defining The First Impression Jasbina Ahluwalia discusses with Dan Crum, author of Is He Lying to You? There are several types of verbal and non-verbal deception that you lay out within the book. You mentioned the term “getting real.” I think this is so fundamental to the learnings in your book. Spend a couple of moments sharing with our listeners where that fits into this whole thing. _____   Dan Crum I have an entire

Disguising the Truth in Relationships

The Disguising the Truth in Relationships Jasbina Ahluwalia discusses with Dan Crum, author of Is He Lying to You? Your book identifies 14 types of verbal deception. Please share a couple of them with our listeners that you find to be most common. _____   Dan Crum The Disguising the Truth in Relationships: The Missing Answer We mentioned the guilt twists. I mentioned another one that I call the missing answer. One of the most common

Lying and Physical Behavior: The Connection

Lying and Physical Behavior: The Connection Jasbina Ahluwalia discusses with Dan Crum, author of Is He Lying to You? I think that’s very interesting. Like you said, the timing is very important. You can’t take things in the book, attempt to apply them and notice things. You have to pay attention to the sequence of events, the interaction and the timing of everything. Your book identifies the two biggest signs of deception. Tell us about

Deception: The Timing & Signs

Deception: The Timing & Signs Jasbina Ahluwalia discusses with Dan Crum, author of Is He Lying to You? I’m happy that you set the context. Your book guides readers to find what you call their “window of focus.” I know that your book goes into great detail. Let’s do a bit of a sampling to give readers some insights so that they can pick up your book and learn more. Share with us what you mean

Defining Biases From Life Experiences

Defining biases From Life Experiences Jasbina Ahluwalia discusses with Dan Crum, author of Is He Lying to You? You make one very compelling point in your book. I find it compelling given what I do day to day. You advise readers to address what you call their “biased focus” and take off their dating blinders. Share with our listeners what you mean by that. _____   Dan Crum The naughty word is to say that someone

Finding the Truth in His Lies

Finding the Truth in His Lies Jasbina Ahluwalia  discusses with Dan Crum, author of Is He Lying to You? This book is very interesting. You advise readers not to look for truthful behavior. What do you mean by that, Dan? _____   Dan Crum When someone looks for truthful behavior, they’re going to find it. Here’s why. Truthful behavior is one of the easiest things to fake. If you were to ask people, “What does

Types of Lies Men Tell

Types of Lies Men Tell Jasbina Ahluwalia discusses with Dan Crum, author of Is He Lying to You? You explain in your book that there are two different types of lies that men tell. One type is deletion and the other is fallacy. Explain the two types to our listeners. _____   Dan Crum Types of Lies Men Tell: Deletion Deletion is when you leave something out. Let’s say that I ask you

[VIDEO] Marriage Advice: Best Advice & Biggest Mistakes

[VIDEO] Marriage Advice: Best Advice & Biggest Mistakes Are you about to tie the knot? Want to make sure your marriage goes the distance? Diving into marriage is a big deal, and you should make sure you're ready. What's the biggest mistake couples make before they get married... and what's the best advice for avoiding it? YourTango Experts Ellen Whitehurst, Maya Ezratti, Jasbina Ahluwalia and Abby Rodman sat down with YourTango Senior VP

Success of Arranged Marriages

Success of Arranged Marriages Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Helen Fisher: Helen, our listeners consist of men and women of a variety of ages and ethnic backgrounds. Our matchmaking and dating coaching services focus on South Asians mainly in North America who are choosing not to go the route of traditional arranged marriages. Based on your experience and research, do you have any insights regarding arranged marriages? _____   Dr. Helen Fisher Success of

Pre-Commitment Stage: Marriage

Pre-Commitment Stage: Marriage Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Helen Fisher: Absolutely. You have Google as a search engine. What you place in there determines what you get. Garbage in, garbage out. The question dictates the quality of the answers. Because there is so much variation in different life stages, a lot of our audience is in their 20s and 30s, looking for marriage for the first time. What are your top three tips to