Be Present in Relationships

Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dhru Beeharilal: That’s interesting. I actually didn’t know that story. I think that happens a lot in terms of having the idea person and the execution person.

Now we’ll switch gears to personal development.

I believe that you would agree, these skills are very transferable to personal and professional.

In terms of personal development, tell us about the importance of being present to strengthen relationships.

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Dhru Beeharilal

Be Present in Relationships: Most Important

I can’t overstate how important it is to be present. It’s probably one of the most important things.

People say that communication and trust are very important.

Be Present in Relationships: Improve Communication

Being present is how you build trust and have communication.

Without being present, you won’t communicate effectively.

If you’re not attentive, if you don’t listen to what the other person is saying and if you’re not open to listening and taking that person’s perspective into consideration, you’re not going to be able to communicate properly.

You’re not going to see their point of view.

Be Present in Relationships: Forget Future

I always tell my clients and friends to live in the now.

Time thinking about the past and future is wasted.

Planning is great, but don’t get caught up in it.

You can think about your future for your entire life if you want to, but you will miss the present.

Be Present in Relationships: Leave the Past

Another thing that I tell people, especially about relationships, is that you don’t want to project past pain, insecurities or experiences on anyone in the present.

They may not be the ones who have caused that pain in the past or who have been there with you in the past.

They are totally innocent and you think, “This person said X, Y and Z. That triggers a certain memory I have of another person in the past.”

That’s not fair to the person in the present.

You have to be present and take things for what they are right now, not for what you think they are.

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Tell Us:

To be present in a relationship is to build it, will you try this out? What has your experience been? Let us know in the comments section below.

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The above is an excerpt from Jasbina’s interview with Dhru Beeharilal.

The entire interview transcript is at: Dhru Beeharilal NetIP (Network of Indian Professionals) Interview – Being True to You

Listen to the entire interview on: Intersections Match Talk Radio – Jasbina’s Lifestyle Show

Listen to the entire interview on Blog Talk Radio: NetIP Spotlight- Live Your Potential